What oh what should I do????

I am a mother of two incredible kids and I know that every mother says that and for them such as me it is completely true. I have a son who is going to be 7 and a daughter who is three. I really live a great life with them and have had many an opportunity to teach them and learn from them. But in recent months i have been struggling as a mom. My son is very active and a bit unruly a lot but the thing is that you can tell there is more to it then just him being a brat. he struggles with paying attention and definitely works off of impulse. he has just entered 1st grade and only 2 weeks in we have started to have trouble. He can't even pay attention in small groups and is affecting the other kids in his class as well as being behind in his reading skills. he gets frustrated and angry when he doesn't understand something because of not being able to focus. What I think is the most difficult with me is having a hard time deciding what is him just being a pain in the ass kid as they can all be or something that is beyond his control.
Yesterday he got in trouble for teaching a boy from another country that doesn't even speak English how to spit milk out of his straw at other kids and he does know right from wrong he isn't dumb and when not in the situation can tell you that it wasn't right but just makes bad choices in the moment and I am at my wits end! I have looked into many different things that I can do and have discussed with his doctor and are in the process of testing which takes so long....

Inattention:

• fails to pay close attention to detail or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork or other activities
• has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or activities
• does not appear to listen when spoken to
• does not follow through on instructions and does not finish tasks
• has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
• avoids or dislikes tasks that require sustained mental effort (e.g., homework)
• is easily distracted
• is forgetful in daily activities

Hyperactivity:

• fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat
• does not remain seated when expected to
• runs or climbs excessively when inappropriate (in adolescence and adults, feelings of restlessness)
• has difficulty playing quietly
• is constantly on the move
• talks excessively

Impulsivity:

• blurts out answers before the question has been completed
• has difficulty waiting for his or her turn
• interrupts and/or intrudes on others

Any feed back or anything that people know that they have experienced I welcome your commments

To marry, Or not To Marry????

What is marriage? In my eyes marriage, is a piece of paper that you pay for. That someone who thinks their high and mighty gives you saying that you have rights over the other person's possessions. Not to mention that marriage goes way back to the time where no one could believe much else except the bible and this says the union between men and women.
We all know that even if we don't agree with it or can't stand the thought of it there are those that choose to live an alternative lifestyle and should be able to make any decision that works for them and fits who they are.
I mean here I am a 28 year old women who has been with my boyfriend for 81/2 years and we have 2 children and live together. Why should we get married? There is no reason other than the fact that this is what people have come to expect and the way the bible and all those people still living in the past believe it should be done. I remember the looks I would get when people asked me with my first child if I was getting married and I said no what is the point! My kids are just as cared for taken care of and loved as any other kids I know and it does not dictate who my kids are or who they will become . I believe that this is the same for families living alternative lifestyles, but in the same breathe if someone who chooses to live a life of marriage should have to the opportunity. Who gives these asses in congress and such ya know the ignorant ones that get divorced or sleep with there secretary's(also not aloud in the holy land)the right to say okay you can have a civil union but the "Marriage" word is sacred and saved for those who aren't sinners. well fuck them and all the power to anyone who is human and wants to get married..... I mean there are people who marry there dogs for christ sakes.....

So when is enough, enough?

So, one must start to wonder when a friendship gets to the point where they must say enough is enough. Ever had one of those friends that you just give and give and get nothing in return? I had a friend turn out as such, she was so great for such a long time then whether she went crazy or I just found out who she really was is debatable. I seem to blame myself for the braking down of the friendship. What did I do? How could I have helped her more? Was I a good friend? All these things run though my mind as if I could have changed something. I spent a lot of sleepless nights trying to figure out all the answers to these questions. I had a lot of close friends that tried to be unbiased but unfortunately to no avail, because they had already seen the light. How do you go on knowing that you have done everything right(or so you think)but that it doesn't work out in your favor. Or now staying up wondering if they even cared about you at all because they don't seem at all upset about the now lack of friendship. In some respect I feel like there is an unspoken vow that you take as someone's friend. Even though they may suck at being your friend you know that they need you. I just want my old friend back without the new bullshit. She hasn't been the greatest friend in recent months but if I called her could we fix it? Could she still be in there somewhere?